Posts tagged pleasure
Here’s How To Renovate Your Relationship With Your Pleasure

Living a pleasure filled life will not corrupt you.

And again, so it sinks in before you keep on scrolling...

Living a pleasure filled life will not corrupt you.

But I reeaaaally understand why you think it could...

“Over-indulgence”
“Self-gratification”
“Hedonism”

The church taught us that it was sinful to seek pleasure; and our language around pleasure is still permeated with negative associations.

If you are like most folks, pursuits of pleasure that extend past the constraints of your ‘pleasure comfort zone’ triggers inner conditioning around selfishness & immorality.

We are a society that is afraid of pleasure.

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Uncovering your deepest hungers

I have been thinking a lot about wanting. About what it means to be desirous as humans.

It is damn hard to acknowledge (or even identify) our realest, deepest, most hungered for desires.

To want, is to be vulnerable. It’s risky. We don’t want to open ourselves up to the hurt that allowing our wanting might bring.

Because, what if we don’t get it? What if we lose it? What might that mean about us? What if our wants are bigger than our lives can hold?

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The Wetter. The Better.

Back in 2015, the infamous MMA fighter Ronda Rousey, publicly labelled women who use personal lubricants as “gritty kitty bitches”. This bold claim was made when defending her embarrassingly ill informed sex column in Maxim magazine, where she told readers that;

“You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, than [sic] you’re being lazy… and you’re not taking your time.”

Whilst I agree with her sentiment to ‘take your time’ (cause foreplay is not a suggestion, it’s mandatory) Ronda is exactly wrong.

I am firmly of the belief, that where there is sex, there should be lube! Why? Because, in the words of the incomparable Emily Nagoski, “lubrication is not causation”.

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